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Monday 25 May 2015

The manipulator

An example of abusive behaviour is someone who repeatedly attempts to manipulate their victims.  It can be difficult to spot.  Particularly if the abuser knows how to hide their manipulative actions. For example, a manipulator may sulk until their victim does what they want.  They may refuse to help with the children, carry out housework or stop talking to you until they get their own way.  They may even carry out very odd behaviours in public to make their victim embarrassed until they get what they want such as exposing themselves, attempting to tell members of the public about their opinions on your relationship, asking for other people's opinions on a 'disagreement' or even threatening to run in front of car.

In fact, repeatedly threatening suicide is a very common example of manipulative behaviour.  Although threatening suicide can be a cry for help,when it happens alongside other types of abusive behaviour, it is an example of emotional abuse and manipulation.

Victims of abuse must always remember that they are NOT at fault.  It is always the fault of the abuser.  We are each responsible for own actions.  If someone attempts to manipulate you, to get what they want, your relationship is not a healthy one.

In emotionally supportive relationships, people have open discussions to reach compromise.  Manipulation and abuse has no part in a healthy relationship. In healthy relationships, the protagonists understand that they may sometimes not get what they want.  If compromise cannot be reached, each person is prepared to concede on their desired outcome.  However it should not be the same person who concedes their desires every time.  Desires / expectations in relationship should be reasonable, human centred and not undermine the other persons personal emotional power

Yours The Renegade Glitter Fairy

xx

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